There was a time when I believed I would never be focused. I had too many emotions, too many dreams, all going on at the once and I couldn’t process any it of if fully. There was a time when my solution to everything was a drink, a drive to a happy hour. There was a time I thought I would never get married and have a family of my own. There was a time when I lacked faith in myself, faith in others and faith in God.
No matter how much I read the bible or devotionals, or spoke to my mentor, I couldn’t find myself to have faith.
Faith seemed like this nice theory that was seemingly unattainable and difficult to live out. But one day I heard someone tell me the words that ignited a shift in my perspective on faith. It was such a simple statement, but a powerful one nonetheless.
She told me, “If you don’t have faith, borrow mine.”
The word, “borrow” jumped at me and I hung onto it. For days I meditated on this word or should I say for many years. I didn’t understand the concept behind borrowing faith, but what I did know is that it contained mysterious wisdom, waiting to be unlocked.
Now, at 30, I know exactly what she meant.
When we have no faith we gain faith from living out someone else’s experience with faith.
Let me give you a personal example.
There was a time when I loved the party scene. I loved to drink and get wasted. I was also extremely dependent on men for my happiness. Subconsciously, I believed that to be happy I needed to be in a relationship. All of which are lies. But at one point in time, they were my truths.
As I began to go to church I witnessed many young people living lives free of drugs and other vices. I saw many young women single and were joyfully fulfilled.
I knew in my heart that if many young adults were living this way, then I too could live out a joyful life without the substances or the company of a man.
From this observation I learned three valuable lessons:
- I borrowed faith when I decided to believe that if others could be joyful without drugs, alcohol and a boyfriend, then I can live the same way and be content too. But, it required big decisions on my behalf.
- While I was using drugs and dating around, I was really chasing happiness. I was pursuing happy moments rather than true joy. The kind of joy found in Christ, where your entire life can be upside down yet there is peace and fulfillment. The kind of joy that produces hope in knowing that God isn’t done with you because His future plans are abundantly amazing.
- Deep inside we crave to hear success stories and testimonials of people who find healing, love and joy and success. We crave it because to believe in someone else’s miracle is to borrow that faith and apply to ourselves. We all want to be healed. We want to find deep meaning in our day-to-day. We all want to succeed. And something powerful occurs when we listen to the stories of those whom have overcome and conquered. That powerful occurrence is belief. It’s FAITH.
Faith is active.
When we decide to believe, then we must decide to act.
So, right now if you find yourself not believing in God, not believing that your circumstances can change, not believing that you can be successful etc. Whatever it is that you’re having a difficult time believing, please read and do the following.
- Identify your struggles. Write about them. Talk about them. Come clear. Be honest.
- Get to the root of the why of your struggles.
- Find at least ten books on ten different people who have overcome those giants that you are fighting against. Read about them. Analyze their victories and their actions.
Borrow someone else’s faith and develop your own.
Borrow my faith. Read, “A New Breed of Women.”