As I continue to write my book I can’t help, but think about all the teenagers and young women that will read it. So many young girls walking around with identity and insecurity issues and no solution. So, they turn to what they see on social media as quick confidence fixes.
I see many young girls in need of love. In need of attention. In need of real friendships. In need of affirmation and encouragement.
- Yet you turn to fake friendships just to feel a sense of belonging.
- You turn to guys and pointless dates to feel significant.
- You invest in unhealthy relationships just to feel loved.
- You walk around half-naked to feel admired.
- You place much emphasis on your outer appearance because the admiration of many eyes gives you a sense of worth and adds value to who you are.
Little woman, you are much more than the clothes you wear and the makeup that you slap on your face.
Your worth isn’t found in outward things.
Your source of value and identity should not be product centered.
Your source of confidence should not be dependent on the opinions of others.
Raw confidence is found in turning to that little girl deep inside you and facing those deepest, darkest wounds.
It’s healing from the negative comments that you heard about you when you were young.
Perhaps your parents called you names out of love yet they may have been hurtful to you.
Maybe they gave you a nickname that negatively targeted a body part. Boys probably made fun of you for what they considered a physical flaw. Perhaps your disability caused many people to constantly stare at you and make fun of you.
Whatever the case may be. Look into the mirror and speak to that little girl deep inside whose hurting and longing for approval. Know that you can pray and ask God in that moment to heal you. To free you from that jail of discontent with yourself that has kept you sad and bitter for such a long time.
- It’s time to grieve that old you and welcome a new you. I know that there is an image that you hold onto of who you want to become. Hold onto that image and pursue it.
Healing from past wounds is key to loving yourself and to gain self-esteem, but to heal you must confront.
- To continue on that healing journey it is important that you seek for God to find your true identity. Read God’s word, for in it you will discover that you were created with a purpose and slowly discovering that purpose will launch you to experiencing raw confidence.
- When you know that all your struggles can serve someone else as encouragement. When you know that every one of your setbacks can be a perfect platform for you greatest comebacks. When you can understand that life does not happen to you, it happens for you. When you can understand that your greatest disadvantages can be the tools that God needs to use to prosper you. When you know that you were created with a plan in mine. Then you have the proper foundations to building a life that you will be proud of.
- Having a solid identity will lead you to loving yourself and most importantly it will take you to experience a level of confidence that will be grounded on what you think of yourself than what others think of you. The opinion of others won’t matter as much. You will be free.
- Healing, discovering your purpose and knowing your identity in Christ will lead you to loving yourself.
Raw confidence is not product centered. It’s purpose centered.
Thank you for reading and God bless!
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Stay tuned for the release of my book where I will share some of the most craziest, darkest experiences that I went through in my teenage years and young adulthood, all because I had not healed from my past and was only in touch with the confidence that I borrowed from watching other girls around me.